The first thing we need to get out of the way is the misconceptions about anger. We need to have a biblical view of anger. Then we will know how to handle it. How do you view anger? Do you see it as negative and sinful? Do you hide your anger from others? Have you dealt with your anger on a personal level? This lesson along with future lessons will answer these questions.
This is a powerful emotion gives it a less than positive reputation. Another question arises as to why God has given it to us. If you are blind to God’s purposes for anger, you may be in bondage to undefined or what is called false guilty. Look at what the Bible says: http://ref.ly/Ps51.6.
There are questions that come to mind that must be dealt with at this point.
Is it a sin for me to be angry?
No. This is a God-given emotion with a purpose. The way you respond and express it determines whether you allow your anger to become sin. Look at what the Bible says about this.
Ephesians 4:26 (NASB)
(26) BE ANGRY, AND yet DO NOT SIN; do not let the sun go down on your anger,
This verse tells us that it is all right to get angry, but deal with it immediately. Do not end the day with you still being angry.
How can I keep from feeling guilty when I am angry?
Anger is serves as a sign that something is wrong. It is like a red light coming on in your mind. The purpose of the light or red sign is to “propel you to action.” [Biblical Counseling Library -Anger – I. Definitions – C. What are Misconceptions about Anchor? p. 3] It makes you stop, evaluate what is wrong, and take the appropriate action. This means that nothing–especially when it comes to anger, be done in haste. Jesus showed anger, but it was done in a responsible way. He serves as our example when dealing with the emotion of anger. Remember Jesus was angry with the hypocritical religious leaders. They interpreted “resting on the Sabbath” excessively. It was excessive to the event that healing on the Sabbath Day was wrong. It was worthy of death! Jesus ignored them, and He healed the man with the crippled hand.
Mark 3:5 (NASB)
(5) “After looking around at them with anger, grieved at their hardness of heart, He *said to the man, “Stretch out your hand.” And he stretched it out, and his hand was restored.”
Here is a good question for you to consider.
How can a God of love be a God of wrath at the same time?
Because God loves you, He directs His anger toward anyone or anything that thwarts His perfect plan for you. His anger does not operate independently of His love. He does express anger on your behalf and for your ultimate good.
Psalm 30:5 (NASB)
(5) “For His anger is but for a moment, His favor is for a lifetime; Weeping may last for the night, But a shout of joy comes in the morning.”
Can people be angry even when they do not look or sound angry?
Instead of recognizing their anger for what it is, they deny, ignore or even repress their anger. They bury it deep within their hearts. It is not hidden from God. He sees and understands it.
1 Samuel 16:7 (NASB)
(7) “But the LORD said to Samuel, “Do not look at his appearance or at the height of his stature, because I have rejected him; for God sees not as man sees, for man looks at the outward appearance, but the LORD looks at the heart.”