Category Archives: Anger

Misuse of Anger

Nobody is exempt from anger. How you handle the heat is the key to dealing with this volatile emotion. The initial spark of anger that could be used for good, if snuffed out. It can keep anger from accomplishing its designated purpose. You and I need to examine ourselves whether we are handling this emotion properly.

Proverbs 29:8 (NASB)
(8) Scorners set a city aflame, But wise men turn away anger.

Prolonged Anger

It is like simmering stew. This means anger is being held inside for a long time. This results from an unforgiving heart. This is because there is some past offense and offender. Unforgiveness results in resentment and deep bitterness that has an effect on other relationships.

Example


“I’ll never forgive the way he spoke to me years ago.” This is long and brooding. This should never have happened. It should have been dealt with at the very beginning of the offense. The root of bitterness– http://ref.ly/He12.15

Pressed down Anger

This is described as being like a “pressure cooker.”

This is denied or hidden anger. It is the result from fear of facing negative emotions. It can create a deceitful heart. It leads to untruthfulness with others. Failure to honestly deal with this type of anger can result in self-pity, self-contempt, and self-doubt. This can sabotage most relationships.

Example

Have you ever said, “I never get angry…maybe just a little irritated at times.” http://ref.ly/1P3.10

Provoked Anger

Also known as the “short fuse.”

This kind of anger is quick and impatient. This causes an individual to be instantly irritated or incensed. It is expressed with criticism or sarcasm under the guise of teasing.

Example

“I can’t believe you said that! You’re so childish!” http://ref.ly/Ec7.9

Profuse Anger

The “volatile volcano” is the result of this type of anger. It is powerful, destructive, and hard to control. It is characterized by contempt, violence, and abuse toward others.

Example

“You stupid fool–if you ever do that again, you’ll wish you’d never been born!”

Look at the warning that comes from Jesus. http://ref.ly/Mt5.22

For your information, this lesson comes from Biblical Counseling Library. It is a part of my WordSearch software. I purchased it as a separate e-book for my collection of books on my software. I am so happy that I made the choice to purchase it. It has been a great help to me as I ministered to people. I will continue to use it as such information as needed.

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Misconceptions Concerning Anger

The first thing we need to get out of the way is the misconceptions about anger. We need to have a biblical view of anger. Then we will know how to handle it. How do you view anger? Do you see it as negative and sinful? Do you hide your anger from others? Have you dealt with your anger on a personal level? This lesson along with future lessons will answer these questions.

This is a powerful emotion gives it a less than positive reputation. Another question arises as to why God has given it to us. If you are blind to God’s purposes for anger, you may be in bondage to undefined or what is called false guilty. Look at what the Bible says: http://ref.ly/Ps51.6.

There are questions that come to mind that must be dealt with at this point.

Is it a sin for me to be angry?

No. This is a God-given emotion with a purpose. The way you respond and express it determines whether you allow your anger to become sin. Look at what the Bible says about this.

Ephesians 4:26 (NASB)
(26) BE ANGRY, AND yet DO NOT SIN; do not let the sun go down on your anger,

This verse tells us that it is all right to get angry, but deal with it immediately. Do not end the day with you still being angry.

How can I keep from feeling guilty when I am angry?

Anger is serves as a sign that something is wrong. It is like a red light coming on in your mind. The purpose of the light or red sign is to “propel you to action.” [Biblical Counseling Library -Anger – I. Definitions – C. What are Misconceptions about Anchor? p. 3] It makes you stop, evaluate what is wrong, and take the appropriate action. This means that nothing–especially when it comes to anger, be done in haste. Jesus showed anger, but it was done in a responsible way. He serves as our example when dealing with the emotion of anger. Remember Jesus was angry with the hypocritical religious leaders. They interpreted “resting on the Sabbath” excessively. It was excessive to the event that healing on the Sabbath Day was wrong. It was worthy of death! Jesus ignored them, and He healed the man with the crippled hand.

Mark 3:5 (NASB)
(5) “After looking around at them with anger, grieved at their hardness of heart, He *said to the man, “Stretch out your hand.” And he stretched it out, and his hand was restored.”

Here is a good question for you to consider.

How can a God of love be a God of wrath at the same time?

Because God loves you, He directs His anger toward anyone or anything that thwarts His perfect plan for you. His anger does not operate independently of His love. He does express anger on your behalf and for your ultimate good.

Psalm 30:5 (NASB)
(5) For His anger is but for a moment, His favor is for a lifetime; Weeping may last for the night, But a shout of joy comes in the morning.”

Can people be angry even when they do not look or sound angry?

Instead of recognizing their anger for what it is, they deny, ignore or even repress their anger. They bury it deep within their hearts. It is not hidden from God. He sees and understands it.

1 Samuel 16:7 (NASB)
(7) But the LORD said to Samuel, “Do not look at his appearance or at the height of his stature, because I have rejected him; for God sees not as man sees, for man looks at the outward appearance, but the LORD looks at the heart.”

 

Anger has Many Degrees

Anger has many degrees. It ranges from mild, controlled irritations to hot, uncontrolled explosions. Anger is a wide umbrella word that covers many levels of the emotion. [David R. Mace, Love & Anger in Marriage (Grand Rapids: Zondervan, 1982), 42-45.] Note http://ref.ly/Ge49.5-7

Indignation–this is simmering anger provoked by something appearing unjust or unworthy and often perceived as justified. Jesus became “indignant” when the disciples were preventing parents from bringing their children to Jesus so that He might touch and bless them. http://ref.ly/Mk10.14

Wrath–this is burning anger, which is accompanied by a desire to avenge. (Remember–vengeance is mine saith the Lord.) Wrath moves from the emotion of anger to the outward expression of anger. http://ref.ly/Ro1.18 God expresses His wrath as divine judgment on those who commit willful sin.

Fury is so fierce that it destroys common sense. This word suggests a powerful force compelled to harm or destroy. There were some members of the Sanhedrin. They were so angry with Peter and the other apostles for proclaiming that Jesus was God that they were furious… http://ref.ly/Ac5.33. Note the following verse concerning this… http://ref.ly/Pr27.4.

Rage is blazing anger, which results in loss of self-control, often to the extreme of violence and temporary insanity. After this happens, how many times have you heard the individual say “I can’t believe I did that!” Those who suffer with this type of anger vent their rage toward others, which includes God. They find themselves defeated by their own destructive decisions and ruined relationships. http://ref.ly/Pr19.3

 

Definition of Anger

Moses’ anger was directed at how his brethren was treated by the Egyptians. What he did with his anger resulted in trouble for him. Moses allowed his emotions to overpower him. The crime was of passion–he committed murder. He was right about the injustice. His reaction was wrong. He was not prepared for the task that God had called him to do. Because of this, God had to work on Moses on the back side of a desert for 40 years. He had to realize that he could not rescue his people in his own strength. God needed a godly leader to lead His chosen nation Israel out of bondage.

Look at what Biblical Counseling Library lists concerning anger:

  • Anger is a strong emotion of irritation or agitation that occurs when a need or expectation is not met. http://ref.ly/Pr29.22
  • Anger is the fuel for what the Bible describes as hot-tempered or quick-tempered person. http://ref.ly/Pr15.18
  • Anger in the Old Testament is most frequently the Hebrew word aph, literally meaning “nose or nostrils” and figuratively, picturing nostrils flaring with anger. Later aph came to represent the entire face as seen in two ancient Hebrew idioms:

–Long of face (or nose) meaning slow to anger http://ref.ly/Ps145.8

–Short of face (or nose) meaning quick to anger http://ref.ly/Pr22.24

 

  • Anger in the New Testament is the Greek word orge which meant any “natural impulse or desire,” but later came to signify “anger as the strongest of all passions.” It is often translated as “wrath” because of its powerful lasting nature. [Vine, Vine’s Complete Expository Dictionary of Biblical Words.] http://ref.ly/Ro2.8

This reminds me of Martin Luther King. He advocated peace marches instead of retaliation against those who harmed people.

Introduction to Anger

Foundation Chapter http://ref.ly/Ex2

 

Anger will make you run if you do not master it. Case in point. Moses. Moses was delivered from being killed when he was a baby. His mother saw that he was a good child http://ref.ly/Ex2.2. She placed him in a basket, and she told her daughter to see what would happen to her baby boy. One day while the baby basket was a float, the daughter of Pharaoh heard the baby crying. She took the baby as her own. She named the child Moses which means drawn from the water. He grew up in the Egyptian palace learning the ways, religion and language of the Egyptians. One day he saw “an Egyptian smiting an Hebrew, one of his brethern.” http://ref.ly/Ex2.11. In his rage, Moses kills the Egyptian, and one of his brethern sees the whole thing. Verse 13 says that Moses went out among his brethern, and he is approached by the one who saw the killing. There was an argument between two individuals. He asked the man who was hurting the other why he is striving against his own brother. Note http://ref.ly/Ex2.14. He wanted to know if Moses was going to kill him like he killed and hid the body of the Egyptian. Moses’ action is found out, and he runs for his life. This is being overcome with anger. Cain killed Abel because he allowed his anger to overcome him. He killed his own brother.

Moses’ life reveals the power and the potential problems that arise when anger goes unchecked. Have you found yourself in this position? Did you do something in your anger, and later you lived to regret it? Anger is a strong emotion, but we can have the victory over it. You place yourself in the position of making a choice to “act wisely or to react foolishly.” [Biblical Counseling Library, Anger – Introduction, p. 2] When we read Exodus 2, we find that Moses did both! There is hope because you can learn how to act instead of reacting. Note http://ref.ly/Pr29.11.