Category Archives: August Lessons on Emotion-Guilt

Characteristics

Characteristics

The Holy Spirit never condemns true Christians. Note the following verse:

Romans 8:1 (KJV)
(1) There is therefore now no condemnation to them which are in Christ Jesus, who walk not after the flesh, but after the Spirit.”

As your Father, God sometimes allows you to experience the consequences of your sin as an encouragement to change. He will also produce in your heart a desire to do His will. Note http://ref.ly/He12.4-11. See Philippians 2:13.


The Enemy Discovered

Meet two kinds of guilt: One is a friend who speaks truth, gently leading you to repentance and forgiveness.

The other is a secret conspirator who taunts and condemns, bringing dishonor and inner shame.

False guilt arises when you blame yourself even though you have committed no wrong or when you continue to blame yourself after you have confessed and turned from your sin. Note I Peter 5:8

True Guilt

John 16:13 (KJV)
(13) Howbeit when he, the Spirit of truth, is come, he will guide you into all truth: for he shall not speak of himself; but whatsoever he shall hear, that shall he speak: and he will shew you things to come.”

-Based on Fact–“I was wrong to take paper and other office supplies home for my personal use. This is actually stealing.”

-Results in a Godly Sorrow over Sin–“My failure to be honest makes me aware of how much I don’t reflect the character of Christ. Dear God, I want to
change. I am heartsick over bringing shame to my Savior.”

-Brings Conviction from the Holy Spirit–“I now see that my attitude was wrong in assuming that the company owed me what I took.”

-Accepts Forgiveness–“I am thankful that I have a heavenly Father who will always forgive me, no matter what I have done.”

False Guilt

Revelation 12:10 (KJV)
(10) And I heard a loud voice saying in heaven, Now is come salvation, and strength, and the kingdom of our God, and the power of his Christ: for the accuser of our brethren is cast down, which accused them before our God day and night.”

-Based on Feelings–“I feel horrible…because I am horrible for wanting something that isn’t mine, much less thinking about taking it. How could I sink so low as to even consider using work supplies at home?”

-Results in a Worldly Fear of Consequences–“I should have worked all weekend to make up for slacking off all week. Now my employer may decide to fire me. If only I had accomplished more, I would not be in this predicament. What am I going to tell my wife if I lose my job? How am I going to pay my bills?”

-Brings Condemnation from Satan–“I am a terrible person for feeling anger at my employer.”

-Abides in Self-pity-“I’m always trying to do my best, but I just don’t have all the advantages that others have. If I had a better paying job, I wouldn’t have to resort to taking things.”

John 8:32 (KJV)
(32) And ye shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free.”

This is an abbreviated list of these conditions.

 

False Guilt Breeds Anger

The question posed with this word is “what does anger have to do with guilt?” Anger is the natural way of fighting guilty feelings. [See Curtis, Guilt, 24-26] It contacts your emotional antenna. It sends messages of shame. “When you feel shame that you have done something wrong, the feared threat of rejection surfaces, and anger becomes the closest weapon for aiming at:

The confronting person who exposes your fault– “She criticizes me and makes me look foolish in front of my friends.”

The significant person who sees your inadequacies and may reject you–“Dad loves my brother more than he loves me because my brother does everything better than I do.”

The hurting person (you) who longs for acceptance–“I hate myself for being so inferior and not living up to the standards of others.”

http://ref.ly/Ps4.4

Acting Out Anger

False guilt has the power to undermine relationships. [Les Parrot, III, Love’s Unseen Enemy: How to Overcome Guilt to Build Healthy Relationships (Grand Rapids: Zondervan, 1994), 33] The role of anger in derailing relationships is less obvious. Anger can be a threatening and dangerous emotion. It is often tried to camouflage it by being in control. There is often the need to be in control because of hidden anger. This is where false guilt functions as the most manipulative and devious enemy.

Taking control by becoming rebellious–“If you don’t like the way I am, it’s just too bad.”

Taking control by attacking–“You said I wasn’t honest, but you are always criticizing me!”

Taking control by shifting blame–,”I couldn’t finish writing my paper because someone needed my help.”

Taking control by suppressing true feelings–,”I never get angry with anyone. People can’t help what they do.”

Taking control by confessing to everything–“I’m sorry. It is all my fault. Will you forgive me?” (The motive is trying to relieve your guilt rather than desiring to change your behavior).

“Man’s anger does not bring about the

righteous life that God desires.”

James 1:20

How should I respond to false guilt?

When the viewing screen of your mind starts playing back your repented sins, realize that this taunting comes from Satan, the accuser of the brethern, to discourage you. Ask yourself, “What am I hearing?” (Accusation.) What am I feeling? (Guilt) What are the facts? (I am fully forgiven.) Use Scripture as your standard to determine true and false guilt. Since you have received Jesus Christ as your personal savior, and since the Savior died to take away your sins, choose to focus on this truth. Take Romans 8:1 as a prayer. Do it in the following manner:

“Thank You, Father, that You don’t condemn me and don’t want me to condemn me and don’t want me to condemn myself. These feelings of false guilt are not valid because I have accepted Christ’s sacrifice and have turned from my sins.”

“Therefore, there is now no

condemnation for those who

are in Christ Jesus.”

Romans 8:1

 

Fear

 

Fear and shame are kissing cousins. They stem from harsh, parental discipline and degrading attitudes in the home. [See Narramore and Counts, Freedom from Guilt, 22-26.] Fears float around not noticed as a by-product of false guilt. Whenever we feel the pain of shame, we also experience…

Fear of Worthlessness (1) as a child: “I don’t really matter to anyone. I’m a bad person.” (2) as an adult: “Why try for that job? I won’t get it anyway.”

Fear of Rejection (1) as a child: “if I let them know I care, they won’t play with me.” (2) as an adult: “Nobody really nice would ever want to marry me.”

Fear of Punishment (1) as a child: “If I don’t please Mommy, she won’t speak to me.” (2) as an adult: “God is angry, and He is out to get me.”

Fear of Isolation (1) as a child: “I’m not good or lovable like others.” (2) as an adult: “If people really knew me, they wouldn’t like me.”

God is love…There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear,

because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made

perfect in love (I John 4:16, 18)

Fallout from Fear

If you live with any of these, you will eventually develop a fear-based personality. This personality, buried deep in the roots of childhood shame, can stay with you for the rest of your life. You may wear the adult clothes of personal success, but deep down in your heart, the fear of being exposed as “needy” creates the desire to hide who you really are. This dishonesty undermines the likelihood of love and intimacy in close relationships.

“He [Adam] answered, ‘I heard you in the garden, and I was

afraid because I was naked; so I hid.'” Genesis 3:10

Difficulty expressing feelings

Difficulty braving failure

Difficulty taking criticism

Difficulty facing conflict

Difficulty accepting responsibility

Difficulty making decisions

Difficulty staying alone

Difficulty feeling empathy

“So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your. I

will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my

righteous right hand.” (Isaiah 41:10)

 

The Sacrificial Lamb of God

 

The only acceptable payment for our true guilt

The perfect lamb is required in the Old Testament. It serves as the “guilt offering” for sin. It is a foreshadow of Jesus Christ, which is the sacrificial Lamb of God. The lamb’s blood was poured on the temple altar to secure forgiveness of God. The shed blood of Jesus Christ covers our personal sin and, and it makes possible reconciliation with your heavenly Father. Are we viewing our sins as God sees them? Have we accepted Christ’s sacrifice on our behalf? Are we trusting Him to be our personal guilt offering? See http://ref.ly/Is53.6-10.

How should I respond to true guilt?

True guilt comes when you recognize the fact that you have sinned. David shows honesty in this regard in Psalm 32:5. “I acknowledged my sin to you and did not cover up my iniquity…And you forgave the guilt of my sin.” God responded in forgiveness. God’s response is the same for you. Note I John 1:9, which says If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.” God is faithful. He will always do what He says He will do. Not only has God forgiven you, He has also removed the sin from you.

“As far as the east is from the west, so far has he removed our transgressions.

from us.” Psalm 103:12

 

Guilt Old and New Testament Perspective

True guilt is the result of sinning. In the beginning, God created male and female in His image. This means we are designed to reflect God’s character in all we do and say. Guilt accompanies any act that misrepresents the truth about who God is. Such acts are an open insult to God. Such actions are seen by Him as sin. 2 Samuel 24:10 (KJV)
(10)And David’s heart smote him after that he had numbered the people. And David said unto the LORD, I have sinned greatly in that I have done: and now, I beseech thee, O LORD, take away the iniquity of thy servant; for I have done very foolishly.”

Guiltiness is the condition we are in when we sin. Being guilty is a fact not a feeling. [Richards, Expository Dictionary of Bible Words, 322; Bruce Narromore and Bill Counts, Freedom from Guilt (Irvine, CA: Harvest House, 1974), 36.] We gave all been guilty of being at fault. The Bible emphasizes with certainty that each of us is responsible for our behavior. Therefore, we are accountable to God. If you unwittingly fail to reduce your driving speed through a school zone, you could receive a ticket from a police officer. Note Leviticus 5:17.

True guilt requires a sacrificial payment for violating God’s revealed will. In the OT, God required a special “guilt offering” when the laws of God, including the rights of other people, had been violated. After restitution was made to the offended or injured party, the blood from an unblemished lamb was poured out on the temple altar. This sacrificial lamb became the “guilt offering,” securing forgiveness and reconciliation with God. Leviticus 6:6-7 (KJV)
(6) “And he shall bring his trespass offering unto the LORD, a ram without blemish out of the flock, with thy estimation, for a trespass offering, unto the priest: (7) And the priest shall make an atonement for him before the LORD: and it shall be forgiven him for any thing of all that he hath done in trespassing therein.”

New Testament Perspective of True Guilt

The New Testament’s perspective of true guilt is primarily judicial. [Richards, Expository Dictionary of Bible Words, 323] Many Greek words are translated as “guilt” and “guilty.” These words carry legal implications and affirm personal responsibility. Look at the Greek word enochos, which means, “to be guilty of sin and deserving of punishment.” We will be held accountable in for our guilt. It might be in a legal courtroom on earth or the divine courtroom of God. For some, they may be guilty in both. As in the Old Testament, the New Testament reveals to the same threefold nature of true guilt. Note http://ref.ly/Ro14.12.

True guilt is the result of sinning. http://ref.ly/1Co11.17

Guiltiness is the condition we are in when we sin. http://ref.ly/Jm2.10

True guilt requires a sacrificial payment for violating God’s revealed will. http://ref.ly/He10.10

 

Guilt Introduction and Definition

Guilt can send us into an emotional battle. On the other hand, is your guilt a loving instrument of God used to convict, correct and conform your character when you astray? Are you battling feelings of shame and condemnation when guilt strikes a blow to your heart? True guilt can be your friend. It is a godly companion who whispers truth and motivates you to repent and be free. False guilt is a relentless foe. Superficial sorrow brings death! Note the following verse:

2 Corinthians 7:10 (KJV)
(10) For godly sorrow worketh repentance to salvation not to be repented of: but the sorrow of the world worketh death.”

Definitions

There is an illustration from Julius Caesar that shows how your traitor can be cloaked in the robe of friendship. “You too, Brutus,” which was the dying words of Caesar to his friend. Brutus is seen as the ultimate traitor. He was the betraying friend who thrust the final blow. Guilt is the unseen enemy. It is an adversary to your God-given value and worth. When you are in bondage to feelings of guilt, learn to discern. Are you facing a friend or fighting a foe?

Are you feeling the godly conviction of sin, —or twisted emotions from enemies within?

What is True Guilt?

From one’s earliest childhood, no one has escaped guilt. Guilt is experienced if we stole a cookie or told a lie. The Old Testament Hebrew word asham, with its many derivatives, paints a three-dimensional picture of true guilt. [Larry Richards, Expository Dictionary of Bible Words, Regency Reference Library (Grand Rapids: Zondervan, 1985), 322]

The word “guilt” refers to the fact of being at fault, deserving punishment and requiring a sacrificial offering. [See the Hebrew dictionary entry in James Strong, Strong’s Exhaustive Concordance of the Bible (Nashville: Abingdon, 1986), 17]

True guilt is the result of sin.

When we sin we are guilty, and a penalty must be paid for our sin so that fellowship with God can be restored. [Robert S. McGee, The Search for Significance: Book and Workbook, 2nd ed. (Houston, TX: Rapha, 1990), 19.

After David committed adultery, he repented and cried out to God, “Against you, you only, have I sinned and done what is evil in your sight” Psalm 54:4.